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Why Is My Cat Affectionate At Night? (Bit Needy?)

If you have noticed that your cat is acting more affectionate at night you may be wondering if there is a reason for this, and if it is normal…

Why is my cat affectionate at night?

If you notice that your cat is more affectionate in the evening than during the day it is most likely because they are carrying around too much anxiety during the day. Since cats are nocturnal, they are much more comfortable at night. During the evening, your cat will likely be less on edge and more likely to come to seek some affection. 

So, now you know. But, do cats like being kissed? How can you tell if your cat has bonded with you? Do they become more affectionate after they have been spayed? Keep reading for these answers, and much more…

What can you do if your cat is not acting affectionate?

If your cat is not acting affectionate you will need to help them feel more comfortable in their environment and around you. Always be patient, while some cats are naturally friendly with people others will take more time. One of the best ways to make your cat feel more comfortable is to pet them and do this often.

It also helps to repeat their name as you pet them so they can recognize it and become familiar with your voice. Cats will become more affectionate as you bond with them more.

Initiating playtime with them

A great way to do this is by initiating playtime with them and have some fun with one of their favorite toys. Make sure you play on their terms so you don’t intimidate them. Pay attention to the cues they are giving off and try to adapt to the way they like to play (what about with cotton buds? click here).

Why does my cat cuddle with me at night?

Why is my cat affectionate at night?

A cat being affectionate with its owner.

Your cat chooses to cuddle with you at night because they show affection in unexpected ways. One of the ways your cat may choose to show you they love you is by sleeping next to you. When they see you relaxed (and possibly sleeping) they may curl up to you as a way to show you they like to be near you.

Think they’re protecting you

Some cats may even think they’re protecting you and keeping you warm when they cuddle you at night. While cuddling is one way they show love, they may also be getting into your bed because it’s comfortable and your body emits heat to keep them warm.

Your cat sees so many different sights (even if it is just from the window) and hears so many different sounds from all the activity that occurs when the sun’s out. At night time, things are usually calmer which leaves the cat feeling less timid. For this reason, they will become more affectionate than they were earlier in the day.

Why is my cat affectionate in bed?

Cat in a bed.

Cat in a bed.

If you notice that your cat is more affectionate when you’re laying in bed, this is because they are experts at reading people’s energy. When you’re in bed, you’re most likely relaxed. You could be sleeping, reading a book, or even watching a movie. Whatever you’re doing, your cat can pick up that you’re in a calm and relaxed state.

Cats often judge by scent, and when you’re laying in bed you’re emitting a calm scent to them. In this case, they will feel more comfortable approaching you for some affection.

Do cats like being kissed?

While your cat may love you more than anything in the world, they don’t want you to kiss them. All cats have different personalities, so some cats may tolerate a kiss or two while others might not get a little feisty. When a cat wants to show their owners some love, they take a much different approach to it than kisses.

Headbutting is one way that a cat lets you know they care. However, purring is one of the most common signs. This is especially true if you start petting their favorite spot. That sound is their way of letting you know they have a love for you.

Do cats have a favorite person?

Do cats worry about their owners?

Cat being stroked.

A lot of cats do have a favorite person and it’s usually the ones who listen to them. Each cat will have its own preferred style of communication with its owners and their favorite person is usually the one who learns to adapt to it. By doing this, the person is making the cat feel a lot more comfortable.

When a cat chooses a favorite person, they are often happier just being in the same room as them. Many people think that giving the cat a lot of attention will make them the cat’s favorite. That behavior could frighten some cats, so it’s important to read how they are reacting to your actions towards them.

Are male cats more affectionate?

Male cats are usually more affectionate than females, especially if they haven’t been spayed. A lot of people have noticed that male cats are more likely to approach them and initiate cuddles. While female cats can be full of love, they are usually more independent.

However, when they go into heat, these attitudes can completely change. A male cat in heat may become aggressive and very territorial. Female cats on the other hand, often become more affectionate and vocal when they are in heat. Many people notice their independent female cat will suddenly want to cuddle when they are in heat.

How do you tell if your cat is bonded with you?

Cats are funny creatures and will likely give off many different signs to show that they have bonded with you, such as grooming themselves (what if it’s unwell? click here) in your presence or doing a slow blink. That’s not the only sign they will give you though, other ways they may show you they have bonded is by showing you their tummy, a good old headbutt, or even with their purrs.

Some cats bring their owners gifts, such as leaves or dead mice, to show them they feel secure. Other cats may give their owners a playful nibble to show some affection. Another unique thing many cats do to show they’ve bonded is twitching their tail in your presence or even curling it around your leg.

Have you ever noticed your cat making a high-pitched meow or gurgling sound? That is also a sign of love, as funny as it may sound. Depending on your cat’s personality, they may show one or a few of these signs that they feel like they’ve bonded with you.

Do cats become more affectionate when they are dying?

When a cat is nearing the end of their life, they are likely to become more affectionate to their owners, Even cats that normally hide often will seem more affectionate than usual. Every cat has a different personality though, and some cats will withdraw themselves socially in their final moments.

Do cats become more affectionate after spaying?

A lot of pet owners have noticed that their cats have become more affectionate after they have been spayed. Often cats that haven’t been altered can become more aggressive. Once they get spayed, they are often calmer and show more affection with their owners. When a cat gets spayed, they are no longer able to get pregnant.

This means that they won’t continue on those pesky serenades and annoying advances that happen when they are in heat. Instead, your cat will be more relaxed and calmer. A calm cat is much more likely to be affectionate with its owner.

Lindsey Browlingdon