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Why Do Cats Want To Be Near You? (Is It Love?)

If you have a loving cat there are times that it seems that it is always there, next to you. But, you may be wondering why this happens, and if this is normal.

Why do cats want to be near you?

When a cat connects with the person, they want to show this person how much they love and trust them. When a cat really adores you, it will rub up against you and purr to show affection. They also do this to mark their territory. You are now theirs. They own you. They have marked you with their scent and they are letting other animals know to back off.

So, now you. know why this is happening. But, do cats need us, humans? Could this behavior be connected to their life as a kitten? What is the best way to respond to this? Keep reading for these answers, and so much more…


Do cats need humans?

Why do cats want to be near you?

Why do cats want to be near you?

Cats form attachments to their owners similar to that of babies with their mothers. Yes, cats need their humans. You are not just a food source for them. They look to you for comfort and security as well.

When a cat trusts his caregiver to provide his basic needs as well as give him love and affection, he develops a secure attachment style. He may greet you when you arrive home and then go about his business. This seemingly “standoffish” behavior does not mean he doesn’t care about you. He behaves this way because he feels safe and secure and is free to be himself.

Do cats need love and affection?

Although cats are pretty independent, they do require love and affection. Your cat looks to you as a protector. He may follow you around the house. It’s because he feels safe with you and wants to be near you. He also likely enjoys sitting in your lap. He feels safe and warm there.

Cats also tend to be near their owners when it’s close to feeding time. You might also notice your cat coming around as you’re cooking dinner or opening cans of food. So, it’s possible that your cat is hungry and wants to eat.

Why do some cats seem needier when you return home?

Cats can experience separation anxiety when you leave them for an extended period of time. You might notice that your cat is “needier” as you return home from a long trip. He may want to cuddle with you more or follow you around to every room in your house. This is because he missed you.

Cats are also very sensitive to change. Your absence has disrupted their routine. Your cat may then act strangely or even aggressively when you return. Although this behavior is normal, you should take steps to try to comfort them. Let your cat make the first move. Let them get used to you and your smell again.

What makes your cat rub against your stuff?

Cats rub up against you and your stuff as a way of claiming their territory. Yes, they think they own you. They rub up against your stuff because it likely has your scent on it. A cat’s sense of smell is 40 times greater than that of a human’s. When they smell your scent it makes them feel safe and happy.

Could this behavior stem from their early life as a kitten?

Just as a kitten learns to follow its mother around for food, love, security, and affection, it will do the same with you. So, yes, this behavior is learned behavior from when your cat was a kitten. Cats are also very curious by nature and just want to see what their human is doing.

Another thing to consider is your cat’s history, could it have been abused by a former owner (Click here if your cat is acting scared of you), then put up for adoption or sale? It might be extra clingy when it experiences love and affection because it’s not used to this behavior.

How should you respond to your cat?

When your cat shows you affection, you must reciprocate and return the affection. What you do to show affection will depend on your cat’s preferences. Some cats enjoy their belly being scratched or they may like being stroked under the chin, while others do not.

Reinforce the behavior

When a cat is overly clingy, the way you respond might reinforce the behavior. Although it’s normal for a cat to want and need affection, sometimes he can be too needy or demanding. The best way to deal with this is to reinforce the behavior that you want and to ignore the rest.

Just relocate it

If your cat rubs up against you or tries to sit on your laptop, you can pick him up and move him. If you pet him, he will only continue to believe that this behavior is okay and you will reinforce the dependent behavior. Removing him from the situation will teach him not to do it because he will not be rewarded for his behavior.

Do cats get jealous if your attention is elsewhere?

Cats do enjoy being the center of their human’s attention. It might seem like you can do anything without stumbling over your cat. He likes to be near you at all times. You might not even be able to go to the bathroom alone.

Cats can become jealous when the attention is not all on them. A jealous cat might be clingier than normal. You might also notice growling, hissing, and swatting at the object of your cat’s jealousy. A jealous cat might even intrude on your personal space.

What might your cat do to grab your attention back?

Your cat can sense when your attention is not on him. There are many things he might do to grab your attention back. If you are working on your laptop, your cat might purposefully sit on top of it. He may also sit on your lap or even walk between your legs and rub up against you to get your attention.

Your cat might also meow or stare at you when you stop petting it or when it just wants more attention. Cats are also famous for knocking things off of tables to get you to pay attention to it.

If your cat brings you gifts, does it mean she wants to be near you?

Your cat may bring you presents as a gesture of love and affection. If you have an outdoor cat, this could mean that it brings you prey. So, if you find a dead bird or bunny on your doormat, it’s a sign that your cat loves and trusts you enough to share their prey with you.

Luckily, if you have an indoor cat, he is more likely to bring you his toys. This is also a sign of his love for you. He’s letting you know that he appreciates you and feels safe and cared for when he’s around you.

Why do stray cats follow you?

Often, stray cats will follow you around. This is a good sign that the cat is socialized and used to being around people. It could be that it’s an indoor-outdoor cat and is just taking a stroll around the neighborhood (Could this be why an unknown cat is at your door? Click here).

Another reason a stray cat might follow you is that it could be an indoor cat that is lost. Perhaps it got out of its house, wandered into the street, and doesn’t know how to find its way back home. If this is the case, you can check for a collar or tags and ask around to see if anyone is missing a cat.

Other Reasons Cats want to be near you

Here are a few more reasons why your cat may want to be near you:

01. Security

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Many kittens are separated from their mother too early in their lives and thus see their human caregiver as a kind of mother throughout the rest of their lives

This is particularly evident in the gentle “kneading” on your lap or pressing alternatively with his two front paws. This behavior is borrowed from life as a blind kitten, which helps the kitten in searching for and activating the mother’s source of milk.

Kneading also shows that your companion feels intimately secure with you, and is, therefore, a touching compliment to your relationship with your furry friend purring protégé.

02. Protection

European wild cats in their natural environment are by no means at the top of the food chain and they have predators that they need to protect themselves from.

Your cat, therefore, likes to lie with the much bigger and taller human being to protect himself. He believes that you can protect him from potential predators. A cat sleeping alone, on the other hand, would be easily caught by its predator.

Also, living in an enclosed space such as an apartment is fundamentally alien to cats from an evolutionary point of view, many noises can be heard at night as well as a range of smells that may trigger an escape reflex. Since the little cat cannot escape from your apartment, he seeks protection with his human “mother” and you should be proud of that.

03. Trust

Cats are considered independent animals, but in reality, they do want company and don’t really like to be alone. It has also been proven that cats dream and they can experience nightmares.

The person with whom the cat lives usually has the full confidence and trust of his cat, which is a great gift given the naturally suspicious nature of these small animals.

If your cat lies down on you to sleep or doze, it likely means that the beloved four-legged friend trusts you completely.

04. Warmth

A very simple reason as to why this little creature wants to lie on you is the warmth that you offer. Your cat may come to you because you are warm and he knows he can trust you. Cats have high energy requirements and therefore instinctively try to save as much energy as possible and therefore, sleep and doze as often and as quickly as possible.

And that’s why they’re looking for a warm place to rest, as this also saves energy. This is especially true if their place of rest is classified as “safe,” which will be the case if you have won your cat’s trust.

After all, these cuddly creatures have a higher body temperature than humans do and have to manage their calories accordingly. Their bodies need more fuel or energy than a person does even when they are at rest.

In addition to the other reasons, sheer comfort and warmth can make your fluffy friend want to lie on top of you.

05. Love

Although this is more likely to be said of dogs, cats often love their humans beyond measure. When you develop a loving relationship with your cat and you build up its trust, you can be sure that your furry companion will love you like no other being in their world. This applies even to cats that can sometimes seem lonely or selfish and may not always appear to want to be near you.

The desire of your four-legged friend to lie on top of you, however, ultimately corresponds to his wish for familiarity, intimacy, tenderness, security, and of course for love. You should feel happy that your cat wants to lie with you as it likely means he loves you (Click here to see if your cat loves you) and you should just enjoy these wonderful moments and be happy that there is so much love in such a small creature.

06. Over-dependence

Your cat follows you wherever you go and it constantly vies for your attention – until it becomes distracting and difficult for you to carry out your everyday tasks. Here we will shed light on possible causes of this behavior as it may point to over-dependence if your cat needs too much closeness all of the time.

You go to the kitchen to make some tea and your cat sneaks around your legs immediately. Later, you try to take a nap and your cat purrs right next to you. You can hardly take a step without stepping on him, and even when you close the bedroom door (Click here if it meows outside of it) at night to get some rest, his paws drum vehemently on the door from the outside, demanding to be let in.

Most people like it when their cat is cuddly and makes itself comfortable on their lap to fall asleep, but after a while, most cats have had enough and find something else to do. However, some cats just don’t let up. Some of these extreme cases of feline affection will become difficult to bear by even the most committed cat lovers because everything has its limits.

Too much dependence on its caregiver can create an atmosphere that can have negative effects on both parties. If your cat is showing signs of over-dependence he may be depressed or more suffering from a physical illness. It is important to speak to a professional if your cat is exhibiting this type of behavior.

07. Early life

A young kitten will imprint on other species when they open their eyes at around nine days of age. This process will usually end around seven weeks of age. After this period, the kitten will begin to social up until around seventeen weeks of age.

Despite that cats will continue to learn and progress throughout their lives, their basic behavior and attitudes are determined by this time.

Thus, everything that occurs during this period is extremely important and if your cat had a negative experience early on in his life, this may explain his current, fearful, and over-dependent behavior.

It is also important to socialize your cat from a young age, if your cat only gets to know one person as a kitten and isn’t introduced to different people, he may become over-dependent on you and fearful of any other people that come into your house.

Lindsey Browlingdon